This is why when you ask 2-year-olds “What’s wrong?” or “Why did you do that?” or “Why are you crying?”, they respond with crying, silence, repeating what they just told you, yelling or some other random response. They just feel it, and they gotta get it all out there. Toddlers don’t understand WHY they feel the way they do. Instead asking questions, meet your child exactly where they are in that moment. This is normal and expected because–woah– 700 new neurons a second. Which means, your 2-year-old is having illogical and impulsive thoughts driven by emotion–all day long. When you have a 2-year-old not listening, a large part (like 90 percent) is because their behavior is driven by the emotional brain, not the logical brain. I was asking logical questions with the mindset that my 2-year-old’s thoughts were logical, when in fact, they were not. Me: What? Why? What’s wrong with the toast?Īnd right there is where I had it all wrong.
Him: I don’t want toast ( falls to the floor ) I used to get in all these non-sensical arguments with my 2-year old, and it would go something like this… With 700 new neural connections every second, is it really a wonder why teaching toddlers to listen is such a common struggle among parents? There is something to help. Because when I first read that I about sprayed coffee all over my laptop. Simply put, from age birth to three, your child’s brain produces 700 new neural connections every second. Teaching a two-year-old to listen is hard because children are experiencing the greatest brain development of their life. Just to be clear, a two-year-old not listening is not because a two-year-old is terrible. Parenting a strong willed toddler was far harder than my hardest day in the ICU.
Then I had a 2-year-old not listening.Īnd I learned something profound. I used to code patients, do CPR, push drugs, shock people, and simultaneously run multiple medications and machines while never breaking one bead of sweat.
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